Dating in high school is overrated
There was a time when the cultural expectations and the cultural supports were in place, partly to prepare young people to marry that early and partly to provide the structures and help after they got married.
That’s not as true today in America as it once was. The second thing I want to say about the older generation (my generation perhaps) is that many parents today who did marry quite early would still counsel young people today not to pair off in dating relationships during high school.
So, is dating in high school foolish but occasionally fruitful?
Or is it potentially a good place to find a strong and godly spouse?
Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:2, “Because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” In other words, sexual relations are for the marriage covenant, not for the engaged couple and not for casual dating relationships.
It definitely has changed some intimate relationships, though whether or not the change is positive or negative is largely dependent on the couple.What I think that implies for high school is that young people should be encouraged to do things in groups that include both young men and young women, but that they hold back from pairing off.I would encourage Josh and other teenagers who might be listening that if they don’t see the wisdom in this, you should listen carefully to your parents and follow their counsel.In other words, it doesn’t follow that because godly people you know married early, that dating early is a good idea. Whether you see dating at age fifteen, sixteen, or seventeen as wise will depend partly on your view of sexual relations, partly on your view of the meaning of dating, and partly on your view of the relative maturity of teenagers.I think the Bible settles the question of sexual relations for us clearly — namely, sexual relations are for marriage.