Christmas gift ideas guy you just started dating
You can also simply make each other presents, like a set of CDs (consisting of a cozy winter soundtrack or a sexy soundtrack).
Or think about agreeing to donate to worthy organizations in lieu of a gift exchange. Think "compromise" rather than "sacrifice." Are you and your new boyfriend talking about how to split up the holidays?
" Introducing a new guy to anyone in your family automatically ups the ante, especially during the holiday season.
Also, sometimes our families make us act not like our better selves, to say the least.
" The holidays stress us out — there's so much to do, shopping sucks, it's cold, and any existing family tensions are exacerbated — so trying to get a new relationship started is the last thing you want to add to your to-do list, especially because there are so many holiday minefields that could blow the fragile little romance to smithereens. Don't feel compelled to bring some new guy to your office party.
) by not seeing them over the holidays, simply agree to go your separate ways for the day — and do a special holiday dinner together, just the two of you, sometime before New Year's Eve. If she's going to grill him about his job, alert him to her prying ways.
Plus, a bunch of people standing around talking shop while getting drunk and doing karaoke is no outsider's idea of fun. Think twice about casually inviting him to any family holiday party.
He'll probably be relieved if you let him off the hook, explaining it'll be easier on both of you that way. Similarly: Don't be offended if he doesn't bring you to his. Don't tell yourself, "Oh, what the hell — why not kill two birds with one stone?
And not just because the pumpkin butter I've been having on my morning toast is arousing Thanksgiving reveries, a la Proust's madeleine. Cup-of-Tea and I have already started discussing the holidays.
I have been wondering what I want in terms of participation: If we're still together in December, will I be happier if he hangs out with my family on December 25 — or will it be less stressful for both of us if we simply agree to do the holidays apart?