A girl dating a boy two years younger
Most little girls aren't taught that's it's OK to touch yourself (where as masturbation, touching and looking are all part of a male's sexual lexicon from a very young age, whether through socializing or the media), so we take our shame and we hide it in other vaginas. When I was about 10 years old, my friend and I would play a game called "boyfriends" where we would each have a pillow for a boyfriend.
"Boyfriends" would begin with a "movie date" where we would pretend to go on a double date to the movies with our pillow boyfriends.
Lena Dunham is certainly not someone whose work I seek out regularly — I am a fan insofar as she's a hardworking woman in a male dominated industry, but that's about it. I did a lot of weird things when I was trying to figure out what my vagina was, and what the strange tickle feeling that began happening between my legs meant.
I went through puberty at 10 years old, and it's important to remember that for a lot of girls, puberty happens before you're ready for it, and before anyone has even bothered to tell them anything about the way their body works.
Acting out sex with other props is art of a normal process not only for sexual discovery but for children interacting with the complex notions swirling around them on a daily basis.
I used to huddle with my girlfriends in the library and we'd read passages from the "naughty" parts of YA novels or look at pictures of genitals in medical books.
Little girls not only look at each others bits, some will, from time to time, be naked with their friends, and even try out kissing. For me, none of it was arousing (not like my sweet, sweet pillow boyfriend), but it was interesting and certainly informative, which is another facet of little girls interacting with their sexualities.
It doesn't mean they're lesbians or not lesbians or molesters or freaks. Sexual discovery is part a natural and insatiable curiosity, but too often it's stifled by society's backwards ideas about what a girl should be and how she should be it.
Vaginas, as we know, are very neatly tucked inside a woman, for the most part.What a silly little boy child just trying to figure things out in this crazy old world!Even when it comes to being a teen masturbating in the same room as someone else, boys are given a free pass.For girls that didn't have barbies, substitute literally anything else used in a playtime/story telling context.Kids have huge imaginations, and once they start being exposed to a media full of sexuality, children begin to internalize and interpret what they see in the world around them. If we weren't able to absorb, process, and regurgitate information, ideas and emotions, how would society ever be educated, reflective, or even interesting?